Coronavirus April 2020 update for support

April 2020So the Coronavirus Pandemic has arrived and is snowballing pretty quickly. This is an unknown and difficult time for everyone and is likely to bring to the fore a lot of mental health issues. I was scrolling (as you do) and became aware of Chris Martin (from Coldplay) who was in isolation and had decided to do a Chris Martin Live event (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YMBK9OfsKO4). This really struck me and I thought instead of watching things unfold I would actively try to utilise my skills to improve community and support people the best way I could.

So I thought with my new website still evolving I would try to create a page dedicated to supporting people who are struggling with their mental health due to the coronavirus.

I have contacted local businesses and utilised networks of professionals as well as extensive research to compile this information.

I am able to offer skype/ whats app video/ zoom consultations ad hoc to those who feel they need professional support at this time. I want to do my bit to support the country getting back on track.

I want to thank everyone who participated and offered resources to share. We are in this together and this to shall pass. #togetherathome.

World Kindness Day

So yesterday was World Kindness Day and Children in Need. I offered some FREE discovery calls to those in my Facebook Group. I hope they found it helpful it was last minute and I am pleased I opened up my diary. I will definitely do that again especially in the current climate…If you are looking at my website and would like to join please join here
Thinking about world kindness day and children in need gets me thinking about how to be kind to others.
Did you know being kind to others has loads of benefits:
1. Kindness boosts your immune system.
Oxytocin (feel good hormone) gets released when we are kind. It can reduce inflammation linked to various physical issues we experience in our bodies.
2. Being kind is good for your heart.
Oxytocin expands blood vessels, which reduces blood pressure.
3. Kindness can reduce anxiety.
Social anxiety can be really overwhelming. Our mind monkeys come up with reasons why what we’re about to say will be the ‘wrong thing’. So we clam up and say nothing and often look very awkward.
Instead of thinking about how you feel, think about how someone else might be feeling and try to brighten their day. It’s hard when your mind monkeys of anxiety are sabotaging every attempt to be kind. But those who matter will notice the effort. A good way of overcoming this might be to plan ahead.
4. Being kind helps you build your support community.
The phrase ‘do onto others as you want them to do onto you’ comes to mind. Kindness always comes back, just like other emotions.
We all go through hard times when we don’t feel like we’re doing enough for the challenges around us. If you have a strong network of friends, you’re less likely to feel alone.
5. Kindness gives you a sense of control.
We instinctively feel resentful of people who push our buttons and cause us to lose our temper. The phrase ‘kill them with kindness’ is one I always try to do. When we get triggered by these people we often feel out of control. There may need to be some cleansing to avoid some triggering relationships if possible.
6. Kindness gives you a break.
One of the biggest problems with anxiety and stress is that they don’t give our brains a break. When we focus on the joy we are bringing to someone else, we give our brains a much-needed break from figuring out our own problems.
We give the analytical, thinking, or ‘left’ side of our brain a rest, and we instead engage the creative and feeling side of our brain. In doing this, we find that our consciousness is eased, and our ‘thinking’ brain can operate with a little more ease.
By focusing on someone else’s happiness, we forget about our problems for a while. And that alone is enough to give us a little boost. This is truly one of the ‘secret’ benefits of being kind not many people realise.
7. Kindness is what we all need.
We all need as much kindness as we can get.
So what could you do to be kind….
It doesn’t have to be a big gesture here are a few ideas:
  • Check in with a family/ friend member
  • Compliment someone you meet
  • Take breaks during the day to reflect on people in your life and let them know how much they mean to you
  • Be 100% present with people…. phones, computers, ipads, everything away… focus purely on the people in front of you…
  • Make some positive memories to look over in years to come
What have you done to be kind this week? Do drop me an email/ come into my group and let me know.
Spread some sparkle.
Best Wishes
Claire
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Ps.
Remember I am collecting for those in need for Christmas hampers. If you have anything you would like to donate for a good cause please check out just giving or pm me if your local and want to drop off anything. There is an amazing collection starting I am so proud and grateful to support giving back ❤ 💙 💜

#Spaathome for National Spa Week!

National Spa Week 2020

 

It feels like National Spa Week (who knew that was a thing?) has come along at exactly the right time! We’ve just entered our second lockdown of the year here in England and we could definitely all do with some specifically allocated relaxation time. Checking in for a day of pampering at your local spa or beauty parlour obviously isn’t a feasible option right now, but recreating the spa experience in the safety and comfort of your own home is an ideal way to give yourself the time and space for self-care and stress relief amidst the mayhem. Having a spa day – or night – at home means putting aside a couple of hours to focus solely on you, and let everything else melt away for a little while.

 

In this blog post, I thought I’d set out a couple of ideas about how you can go about crafting your own relaxing spa experience at home and ways that you can direct your energy and attention towards giving yourself much needed and well deserved care. Creating the right environment can really help to facilitate more positive, less catastrophic or chaotic thinking, allowing the mind and body to release stress and tension that feeds into a cycle of negative thoughts and emotions. While in itself it provides a valuable temporary respite, commitment to self-care activities like this are key in broader processes of transforming emotional wellbeing.

 

So, I’ve sorted my ideas into three main categories:

 

  1. Setting up your space:
  • To create the perfect Spa ambience, start by dimming the lights
  • Light some scented candles of your favourite scents or burn incense for extra relaxing vibes
  • Pop a Soundcloud or Spotify spa playlist on in the background to set the tone
  • Make sure you have somewhere comfortable to sit and relax, grab some extra cushions or blankets if you need to

  1. Relaxation:
  • Grab yourself a drink of your choice – it could be a herbal tea with lemon, a glass of wine, or just some water to hydrate
  • Take five or ten minutes to focus on your breathing and center yourself and find your Zen so you’re in a state of calm and ready to relax, not overthinking or overstimulated
  • Have yourself a candle-lit bubble bath – use salts, oils or bath bombs to make it extra special
  • Put on some comfy clothes – favourite lounge wear, soft pyjamas or a fluffy dressing gown and cosy slippers
  • Try and avoid screens if you can, to help you physically and mentally prepare for the ultimate good nights rest afterwards
  • Pick out a good book to read while you soak in the bath or enjoy your spa treatments

 

  1. Pampering:
  • Use a hydrating hair mask
  • Give yourself a facial using a cleanser, toner and moisturiser
  • Spend some time indulging in skin care, using all of your favourite products to deeply massage your face and body
  • Why not try making your on DIY mask by mixing simple ingredients, like a coconut oil, honey and lemon juice combo for your skin
  • Treat yourself to a foot spa! Soak your feet in warm water and epsom salt
  • Give yourself a manicure and/or a pedicure, applying your favourite nail polish

As I mentioned, self-care commitments are important to our overall emotional wellbeing but they’re not the be all and end all. If you’re in a position where you are struggling and feel like you would benefit from some extra help and support to work through your difficulties in a safe, non-judgemental space then feel free to reach out to me or book in a discovery call with me here and we can talk it through! I offer 121 consultations and I would be more than happy to discuss things further and help you on your journey to reaching a more positive and empowered state of emotional wellbeing.

 

I hope you found this helpful and if you do have a go at putting together your own spa day at home, that it brings you utmost peace and comfort during these stressful times!

 

Stay safe and stay tuned

Claire

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Stress Awareness Week

International Stress Awareness Week 2020

If you’re new here, a very warm welcome to the Inspire You community. My name is Claire and I am an Emotional Well-Being Consultant. I offer 121 sessions for individual adults, families and children oriented around overcoming the difficulties and traumas of the past in order to transform negative thoughts and emotions into more positive and empowering ones. I also offer online courses, for individuals aspiring to transform their mindset and unlock their potential.

 

I’m so glad that you’ve happened to land on this page and I hope that you’re ready to join us and start your own journey!

 

So, as you may or may not know, November 2nd to November 6th is International Stress Awareness Week 2020 and November 4th, is National Stress Awareness Day. Therefore, it feels like the perfect time to check in with ourselves and take a moment to notice and reflect on how stress is impacting our lives, our relationships and our emotional well-being. It’s an opportunity for us to think about what we can do to alleviate some of that stress and identify small changes we can make to improve our well-being and quality of life.

 

This year of course, there is a whole other dimension to the kinds of stress that you may be experiencing as we in England prepare to enter a second National Lockdown in the midst of an ongoing global pandemic! The current situation with Covid-19 gives way to a bunch of accompanying stress triggers, including a constant flow of information that at times may seem conflicting, the fear of losing loved ones or becoming ill ourselves, the dissolution of our structured routines and the emergence of an unfamiliar “new normal”, adjusting to working from home, dealing with a heavy workload during a pandemic, the strain on relationships, looking after children etc. These worries are completely valid, but they do not have to dominate you at every waking moment.

 

A lot of the time, we tend to overthink and overthink ourselves into a dark hole. This week, it’s time to examine those thought patterns and turn our energy and attention to acts of self-care. Making your mind a nice place to spend time might not seem like an easy task at the moment but we DO have the power to change that, and I can help you to unlock that power! Our mind is our greatest tool, and by focusing our energy and attention on framing our thoughts and actions in a more positive light, we can avoid catastrophic thinking and ruminating over things that we cannot possibly control. Do. Not. Worry. I’ve got your back.

 

In terms of self care, making sure that our basic needs are met is vitally important. Our basic needs include:

  • Sleep – keeping to a regular sleeping pattern is key in helping us to feel that we have that baseline structure in place, and managing our behaviours such as limiting screen time and caffeine consumption before bed can help to keep that pattern stable and our minds clear
  • Food – there is no “perfect” way of eating and different bodies require different fuel, but balance is important, and processed and sugary foods should only be one aspect of our diet – nutrition also plays a vital role in our emotional well-being!
  • Movement – of course, you do not need to be doing long and strenuous exercises every single day, but doing some light stretches (such as rolling your shoulders, moving your neck from side to side, etc.) and paying attention to where there is tension is important for helping the body to feel a little more relaxed, especially if you’ve been hunched over a work computer and carrying a small child for most of the day!

 

As I mentioned earlier, as humans we spend a lot of time worrying about things that we cannot control – to our own detriment. To honour International Stress Awareness Week, why not try a little mental exercise: make a physical list of worries you have at the moment that ultimately you have no control over, and begin working on releasing them. The worry in your mind is not always an accurate reflection of the external world and cannot directly change the situation or outcome. However, how you frame your thoughts surrounding the worry can have a HUGE impact on your perception of it and its bearing in your life.

 

Staying along the same lines, I also encourage you to give journaling a go and see how it can help you to disentangle or better understand what it is that you’re feeling and thinking about. Journaling is a physical manifestation of allowing your thoughts to just explode. You don’t necessarily need a plan or a prompt – although they could be useful sometimes! – just start writing and see what comes out. Learn about yourself and your current mental state in order to identify your emotional triggers that cause you to feel anxious/low/stressed, and things that might need examining and changing.

Another thing that tends to crop up a lot around stress management is the issue of setting boundaries. Sometimes, we struggle to just say no and end up taking on more than we can realistically manage and feeling completely frazzled. Prioritising and scheduling so that you have a clear plan-of-action can be super useful for seeing what you do and do not have time for. Saying no to people in a work or personal relationship context can stir up some difficult emotions, such as guilt, but this does not mean that you shouldn’t take care of yourself and your emotional needs! Instead, we can work on understanding and re-framing these feelings and thoughts processes that allow you to centre our needs and emotional well-being.

Feel free to join my free Facebook Community Group where I will be offering lots of free support, advice and techniques here

If – like many – you’re aware that you’re feeling stressed and would like some structured support to work through whatever issues you might be experiencing, get in touch and we can sort out a plan together. Book a discovery call with me here and we can talk it through!

 

Look after yourselves, stay safe and stay tuned for much more content coming soon!

 

Claire

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The Child Mental Health Charter….

The Charter

 Focus on the needs of children. Children’s voices must be heard and their dignity and human rights upheld. Within school, the curriculum must embed within it an understanding of emotional well being, the principles of good mental health and the certainty of therapeutic help for those children who need it

 Protect children. Any individual who works therapeutically with children must be registered through an independent government-approved agency such as the Professional Authority’s Accredited Register programme or the Health and Care Professions Council. Children are currently insufficiently protected because too many unqualified and unsupervised people are practising

 Invest in a properly qualified workforce. Level 7 postgraduate training is essential and the main obstacle to a properly trained workforce is the lack of financial support. Accessible, high-quality and recovery-focused mental health services require personnel whose appropriate training is not solely dependent upon their own financial resources. All professionals (including teachers) who work with children must be trained in mental health awareness.

 Ensure policy is informed by the best available and appropriate evidence and adequately funded. Practice-based evidence uses continuous measurements obtained from real life practice and should inform an ‘evidence base’ for working therapeutically with children

 Focus on the needs of parents and carers. There must be high quality support for parents and carers to help them to better understand and support their child with schools promoted as effective, familiar, accessible and empathetic service delivery channels

 Make policies work. ‘Joined up working’ would prioritise appropriate data–sharing between all agencies concerned with child welfare. The responsibility for children’s mental health would encompass all relevant Departments in addition to the Department for Health and Social Care

http://https://childmentalhealthcharter.com/